Talks on raising your stepson should also include their journey of becoming a man. After all, bringing up men of integrity who are responsible is the primary goal of parenting as a stepdad. Bringing up and initiating young men into adulthood has been done by men in cultures around the world. Village elders would teach the young men how to perform the roles and responsibilities of a man properly. It was a lifelong struggle for young men who have become men to preserve their manhood.
Young men nowadays are allowed to create their picture of being a man based on what they have been exposed to, view and catch unlike in the old days where men had the responsibility of leading them to manhood. Boys are then expected to figure out what being a grown up means, and that is why many of them do not have a clear guidance on what they are expected to do as grown-ups. As a stepfather trying to blend in with the new family, knowing how to create a connection with a son or sons not your own and the position you stand in the family might be challenging.
You will have to put in a lot of effort to determine how your stepson feels about himself and you being part of the family before bonding with him. Below are the tips that will assist you to form a strong bond with your stepson that will enable you to raise him to a grown man. You will have to partner with the parents of your stepson to let them know the role you play in their son’s life and gain their support.
The mother to your stepson should also be involved without question because she has raised the boy and therefore knows him very well. Talking to her about the various issues she might have had while raising your stepson is the best way to creating a strong bond with him. Your stepson’s mother should be the one to make the decision when an issue arises with your stepson. A good relationship should exist between you and your stepson’s father to help you form a bond with the son. You can contact your stepson’s father to know how he intended to lead his boy to manhood and reassure him of your support to his child will go a long way in helping you raise your stepson properly.
You will have to create a vision for your stepson in conjunction with his mother to make him attain set goals of manhood. Spiritual, physical, emotional and intellectual developments on your stepson will happen when a vision is created for him, and he will grow to be a responsible man.